I’ve recently found myself re-analysing my life. Remember that New Year’s resolution you made for 2018? You know – the one to cut back on work, stress less and stop caring what everyone thinks? The one where you’ll be carefree, live life to the full and just be happy? Well I do, and I don’t know about you, but I failed miserably. But how? How do we get so caught up and lose track of what we want? And how do we get back on track? How do we get our wellbeing back…
We live in a world where life is busy. We work hard, look after others, do all the “have tos” and miss out on the “want tos. So why do we keep sacrificing our wellbeing? Why do we always put others first and keep giving from our cup until it’s empty? This got me thinking, and talking, and realising that it’s not just me – it seems to be the case for a lot of people.
I set myself goals for the year, I knew what I wanted, and I knew how to get it. But somewhere along the way I forgot to put it into play. I got caught up in working hard, helping everyone else and not concentrating on myself and achieving wellbeing the right way.
See, when the intention is there, that’s great – but when we don’t put strategies into place and focus on putting those plans into action, things fall apart quickly. Before we know it, we have lost sight of what our goals are, and we’re achieving wellbeing in the wrong way.
So how do we get back on track? Do we grind for the rest of the year and promise ourselves that we will put our own wellbeing first? No. That’s not the way to live, in fact it’s not living at all. It’s time to take back control of our lives, focusing on ourselves, our wants and our needs. But the question is how?
When I asked myself this question I wanted to come up with the answers for myself, but also be able to give others advice and help them on their wellbeing journey. So, here’s how we start.
To be able to find reality, you need to take a step out of it. It’s hard to look forward if we are caught up in everything else that’s going on.
This is where mindfulness and meditation play a key role. It’s going to help you disconnect from the pressure of life, find some peace and tranquillity, clear the mind and help you to relax.
If it’s something you’re not into or haven’t tried before don’t worry – there are many apps and YouTube clips for beginners that help to guide you and make it all a stress-free and enjoyable experience. You should find yourself feeling refreshed, calm and collected.
Once you’ve cleared your mind you need to ground yourself – literally. Some of us connect with earth, some with water, some with sand.
Think about what calls you and go to it. For me the water grounds me – it always has. For me, there is no better feeling than being in the water, weightless, floating and free. So, find the place that calls you, take off your shoes and feel the ground beneath you.
Whether it’s sand, grass, water or dirt – feel the earth between your toes, and let your energy flow into the earth, let the earth’s energy flow into you.
Your mind is clear; your energy is balanced and now it’s time to find clarity. ind a space where you won’t be distracted.
Yes, that means you’ll have to put down your cellular device and ignore your notifications for a while. Don’t worry, I tried it and I survived. You need to find a place where you can really connect with your mind and soul.
Get comfortable. Close your eyes and think about what you want, what makes you happy, what feeds your soul and what makes your heart sore. As soon as you can, write it down and put it somewhere you will see it every day as a reminder.
Now that you’ve figured out what you want and what will make you happy then apply it. Don’t just wait for it to happen, make it happen. Everyone says it’s hard but it’s not.
We meet people in life who are selfish and always get what they want; the key is to be a mixture of selfish and selfless. For change to happen you must make changes.
If this means you need to be selfish to be selfless in the long run, then so be it.
You may need to step back from some of your responsibilities, you may need to cut some people out of your life and you may need to let some people down. That’s ok.
If you can’t look after yourself you can’t look after others – so put yourself first, find health, happiness, balance and you’ll be back on track, back on your wellbeing journey.
Refresh and repeat:
Wouldn’t it be easy if once we got life on track its stayed that way? Well we all know that isn’t the truth. Life isn’t easy – everything worth having we need to work hard for, including our health, including our happiness and including our wellbeing.
This means you’ll need to take a step back, become mindful, ground yourself, find clarity and start fresh as often as you need to.
Remember that a life worth living needs balance. Put your wellbeing first and you’ll flourish. Once you put your wellbeing first, you’ll help, support, inspire and motivate so many more people when they see you living your truth – your wellbeing, your way.